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  • Writer's pictureKelly Osbaldiston

Understanding Self-Perception and How to Build a Positive One

Picture this: You’re standing in front of a mirror, taking a moment to reflect on who you are and where you’re headed. As you gaze into your own eyes, what do you see? Do you perceive a confident, capable individual ready to conquer any challenge? Or do you perhaps catch a glimpse of self-doubt and uncertainty clouding your reflection?

We’ve all been there, grappling with what we see when we look at ourselves. Our self-perception is a life-long journey of twists and turns, highs and lows, but one that is essential for our personal development. Our beliefs about ourselves influence our motivation, confidence, and ability to overcome obstacles.

A negative self-perception will cause us to be consumers vs. action-takers. It will lead us down a path where we focus more on seeking approval from others instead of self-acceptance. And we don’t want that. We don’t want a life of navigating a maze of comparison and judgment. We want to cultivate a positive self-perception that empowers us to embrace the magnificent people we truly are.

What is Self-Perception?

Self-perception refers to how we see and think about ourselves. It involves the beliefs, thoughts, and evaluations we hold about our own abilities, characteristics, worth, and identity. Our self-perception plays a significant role in creating the reality we exist in. When we have a positive self-perception, we tend to have more confidence, believe in our abilities, and approach life with a positive mindset. A negative self-perception may cause us to doubt ourselves, feel insecure, and struggle with negative thoughts and emotions.

Our thoughts and emotions are closely linked to our self-perception. The way we think about ourselves shapes our emotions, and our emotions, in turn, influence our thoughts. Our self-perception can be influenced by past experiences, social interactions, cultural influences, and personal achievements or setbacks. It forms the lens through which we view ourselves and the world, affecting our thoughts, emotions, and behaviors.

Why is a Positive Self-Perception Important?

Understanding our self-perception is crucial because it impacts so many aspects of our lives like our relationships, career choices, and personal growth. Someone with a positive self-perception may feel confident, capable, and worthy, while someone with a negative self-perception may experience self-doubt, low self-esteem, and a fear of failure. By examining and consciously shaping our self-perception, we give ourselves the opportunity to unlock our true potential, embrace our strengths, and overcome self-limiting beliefs that hold us back.

Tips for Building a Positive Self-Perception

In a world that bombards us with unrealistic standards and external judgments, cultivating a healthy and empowering view of ourselves is not only essential but liberating. Imagine waking up each day with a deep sense of self-worth, embracing your strengths, and confidently pursuing your dreams. I want to help you boost that breakthrough moment. By Incorporating these strategies into your daily life, you can gradually improve your self-perception and create a more positive reality for yourself.

Challenge Negative Thoughts

Be aware of negative thoughts that arise and question their validity. Ask yourself if there is evidence to support these thoughts or if they are based on assumptions. Our thoughts make up the reality we live in. But just as easy as we get adjusted to negative thoughts, is as easy as we can work on our Positive Intelligence to replace those thoughts with more productive and empowering ones.

Practice Self-Compassion

Treat yourself with kindness and understanding. Acknowledge that everyone makes mistakes and has weaknesses. There is no one you need recognition from more than yourself. Embrace self-compassion by practicing self-care, forgiving yourself for past mistakes, and learning from them. Get aware of the things you consider mistakes and weaknesses so you can make better choices for self-love.

Focus on Strengths and Accomplishments

Think about how much time you spend torturing yourself for your shortcomings and possible failures. What if you spent the same amount of time praising yourself for your wins? Recognize your strengths, talents, and past achievements. Celebrate your successes, no matter how small they may seem. It could be as little as going for that 20-minute walk you’ve been putting off, or as big as making the decision to start a new business. Regularly remind yourself of these positive aspects to reinforce a positive self-perception.

Set Realistic Goals

Break down large goals into smaller, achievable steps. Don’t focus so much on what’s at the finish line. Establish milestone markers that will inch you closer to getting there, but don’t overwhelm yourself by setting yourself up with unrealistic goals. When you accomplish these smaller goals, it boosts your confidence and reinforces positive self-perception. Celebrate each milestone along the way.

Surround Yourself with Positive Influences

Surround yourself with people who uplift and support you. We are the company we keep. Avoid individuals who constantly bring you down or undermine yourself-perception. If you are an artist who wants to be successful at selling their work, hang around people who have similar goals instead of those who “don’t get” what you’re trying to do. Seek out communities or groups that share your values and provide positive reinforcement.

Practice Self-Reflection

Take time to reflect on your thoughts, emotions, and behaviors. Identify any negative patterns or limiting beliefs that may be hindering your self-perception. Journaling or talking with a trusted friend or coach can be helpful in gaining insights and finding ways to overcome these challenges. Remember, building a positive self-perception takes time and consistent effort.

Final Thoughts

When reflecting on my own self-perception for this blog’s content, I couldn’t help but think of my oh-so-constricting self-doubt. Despite having coached over 500 people in my decade-long career, I still battle with seeing a woman who possesses the qualities of a successful coach. I do believe I can do anything if I change my mindset around my self-worth, but I also know it’s something I’ll always have to check in with. I might always have high and low moments, but I’ll always feel confident in my tools to support myself through the ebb and flow.

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